| Hey Doc: | | | | move on as being too much maintenance - which |
| | | | they are. |
| I was really hoping to find a female in this | | | | |
| category to get their input, but it seems to | | | | Thus, it's imperative that you establish that |
| me that the more attractive women | | | | power-base immediately from the moment you |
| (ridiculously gorgeous) will always treat the | | | | approach a woman. There are many ways to do |
| guy they are dating like crap. My friend | | | | this from using a cocky-funny type approach |
| claims always to have that problem and feels | | | | to neg-hits (like "Hey, those are nice shoes, |
| the need to dump them. What do you think? It | | | | my grandmother has a pair just like them!") |
| can't be as simple as that these women can | | | | to an aire of disinterest. You also need to |
| pretty much get what they want so they always | | | | call on these tools as the relationship |
| push their luck? | | | | matures because she's going to Test you far |
| | | | more often - and for far longer than a |
| ================= | | | | less-attractive woman. |
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| Hello! | | | | You know that women go for "jerks" right? |
| | | | This is one of the most important reasons why |
| I know exactly what you're saying here. Yes, | | | | they do so! An apparent jerk seems to move in |
| it SEEMS like that to us guys because we're | | | | his own direction at his own speed. This |
| looking at it from our own perspectives - our | | | | signals power. Likewise, women (not men!) |
| own needs. | | | | want a challenge, and the challenge of taming |
| | | | the "bad boy" is just too irresistable! |
| Consider this: if you tried to pull some of | | | | |
| this crap with your buddies; what would | | | | All women will give all men they are |
| happen? They'd start by questioning your | | | | interested THE Test. This is a big, emotional |
| manhood and eventually just dump you as a | | | | - and artificial - situation created early-on |
| friend. That's because it's not only | | | | in the relationship (usually within a month, |
| unreasonable, it's rude. | | | | but no more than two) that is designed to |
| | | | specifically and clearly establish the |
| However, we guys tend to put up with it from | | | | power-base within the relationship. Most |
| beautiful women! That's a tragic mistake | | | | guys; being the problem-solvers that we are, |
| however. | | | | will try to deal with the issue of The Test - |
| | | | not handle it as a Test. This means we've |
| Men and women bring different assets to the | | | | failed - and lost our power-base to boot. |
| table. It's not exactly "fair", but it is the | | | | |
| reality of life. Women bring their looks (and | | | | The wise dude will always deal directly and |
| if you're smart) their skills. Frankly, very | | | | specifically with The Test as a Test instead; |
| few guys worry about the latter and focus on | | | | thus, firmly establishing a greater power |
| the former. Men on the other hand bring their | | | | relationship with the woman. |
| power which translates outwardly in many | | | | |
| different ways - the way our friends treat | | | | This is somewhat complicated at first to |
| us, our earning power, our "prestige" and | | | | grasp, and I've only scratched the scratch of |
| many other ways. | | | | this important topic. I encourage you to read |
| | | | my books "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & |
| What's particularly unfair about this is that | | | | II" for complete understanding of The Test, |
| as you get older, your power-base continues | | | | the Mini-Test and the Pre-Test. |
| to grow. With women, their attributes fade | | | | |
| over time. A "10" in her 20's will drop to a | | | | The bottom line is this: don't fault beauties |
| "5" or a "6" in her 40's. She knows that and | | | | for using these tools. Women have evolved |
| has to work quickly to hook a guy that is a | | | | over the millennia to have these (and |
| "10" in her eyes as early as possible. That's | | | | frankly, many more) tools to establish their |
| not my rule by the way - it was here when I | | | | own places in relationships. Instead, learn |
| arrived! It's also one of the main reasons | | | | them and more important; learn how to deal |
| that younger women are fascinated with older | | | | with them, and you'll have some incredible, |
| men! | | | | beautiful women that fall in love with you |
| | | | all the time. |
| Here's why beautiful women act this way: | | | | |
| they're giving you what I call the | | | | That's what these women really want. If you |
| "Pre-Test". It's a chance for them to see if | | | | can pass their Tests easily, they feel safe, |
| your power-level is above, at, or below | | | | secure and will give you just as much love |
| theirs. Since beautiful women have a much | | | | and respect as women of lesser looks. |
| higher asset-value than their less-attractive | | | | |
| girlfriends, they want you to bring a much | | | | Best regards... |
| higher power-base with you. All of these | | | | |
| challenges are about proving that's who you | | | | Have a love, dating, relationship, sex or man |
| are. | | | | woman question? You can write to me by going |
| | | | to: for answers. For more information about |
| Here's an interesting aside to this | | | | my books, "Being a Man in a Woman's Worldtm" |
| discussion: many less-attractive women | | | | (volumes I and II), and other products visit: |
| mistakenly think that by challenging you in | | | | Check out the discussion group at: |
| similar ways, they will appear more | | | | |
| attractive! Women even talk about how "men | | | | Copyright (c) 2007, Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| want a challenge". They are totally wrong | | | | |
| however. If their looks don't match their | | | | All rights reserved. |
| challenges, we'll just dump them entirely and | | | | |