| Hey Doc: | | | | power-base immediately from the moment you |
| I was really hoping to find a female in this category | | | | approach a woman. There are many ways to do this |
| to get their input, but it seems to me that the more | | | | from using a cocky-funny type approach to neg-hits |
| attractive women (ridiculously gorgeous) will always | | | | (like "Hey, those are nice shoes, my grandmother has |
| treat the guy they are dating like crap. My friend | | | | a pair just like them!") to an aire of disinterest. You |
| claims always to have that problem and feels the | | | | also need to call on these tools as the relationship |
| need to dump them. What do you think? It can't be | | | | matures because she's going to Test you far more |
| as simple as that these women can pretty much get | | | | often - and for far longer than a less-attractive |
| what they want so they always push their luck? | | | | woman. |
| ================= | | | | You know that women go for "jerks" right? This is |
| Hello! | | | | one of the most important reasons why they do so! |
| I know exactly what you're saying here. Yes, it | | | | An apparent jerk seems to move in his own direction |
| SEEMS like that to us guys because we're looking at | | | | at his own speed. This signals power. Likewise, |
| it from our own perspectives - our own needs. | | | | women (not men!) want a challenge, and the |
| Consider this: if you tried to pull some of this crap | | | | challenge of taming the "bad boy" is just too |
| with your buddies; what would happen? They'd start | | | | irresistable! |
| by questioning your manhood and eventually just | | | | All women will give all men they are interested THE |
| dump you as a friend. That's because it's not only | | | | Test. This is a big, emotional - and artificial - situation |
| unreasonable, it's rude. | | | | created early-on in the relationship (usually within a |
| However, we guys tend to put up with it from | | | | month, but no more than two) that is designed to |
| beautiful women! That's a tragic mistake however. | | | | specifically and clearly establish the power-base within |
| Men and women bring different assets to the table. | | | | the relationship. Most guys; being the problem-solvers |
| It's not exactly "fair", but it is the reality of life. | | | | that we are, will try to deal with the issue of The |
| Women bring their looks (and if you're smart) their | | | | Test - not handle it as a Test. This means we've |
| skills. Frankly, very few guys worry about the latter | | | | failed - and lost our power-base to boot. |
| and focus on the former. Men on the other hand | | | | The wise dude will always deal directly and specifically |
| bring their power which translates outwardly in many | | | | with The Test as a Test instead; thus, firmly |
| different ways - the way our friends treat us, our | | | | establishing a greater power relationship with the |
| earning power, our "prestige" and many other ways. | | | | woman. |
| What's particularly unfair about this is that as you get | | | | This is somewhat complicated at first to grasp, and |
| older, your power-base continues to grow. With | | | | I've only scratched the scratch of this important |
| women, their attributes fade over time. A "10" in her | | | | topic. I encourage you to read my books "Being a |
| 20's will drop to a "5" or a "6" in her 40's. She knows | | | | Man in a Woman's World I & II" for complete |
| that and has to work quickly to hook a guy that is a | | | | understanding of The Test, the Mini-Test and the |
| "10" in her eyes as early as possible. That's not my | | | | Pre-Test. |
| rule by the way - it was here when I arrived! It's also | | | | The bottom line is this: don't fault beauties for using |
| one of the main reasons that younger women are | | | | these tools. Women have evolved over the millennia |
| fascinated with older men! | | | | to have these (and frankly, many more) tools to |
| Here's why beautiful women act this way: they're | | | | establish their own places in relationships. Instead, |
| giving you what I call the "Pre-Test". It's a chance for | | | | learn them and more important; learn how to deal |
| them to see if your power-level is above, at, or | | | | with them, and you'll have some incredible, beautiful |
| below theirs. Since beautiful women have a much | | | | women that fall in love with you all the time. |
| higher asset-value than their less-attractive girlfriends, | | | | That's what these women really want. If you can |
| they want you to bring a much higher power-base | | | | pass their Tests easily, they feel safe, secure and will |
| with you. All of these challenges are about proving | | | | give you just as much love and respect as women |
| that's who you are. | | | | of lesser looks. |
| Here's an interesting aside to this discussion: many | | | | Best regards... |
| less-attractive women mistakenly think that by | | | | Have a love, dating, relationship, sex or man/woman |
| challenging you in similar ways, they will appear more | | | | question? You can write to me by going to: for |
| attractive! Women even talk about how "men want | | | | answers. For more information about my books, |
| a challenge". They are totally wrong however. If their | | | | "Being a Man in a Woman's Worldtm" (volumes I and |
| looks don't match their challenges, we'll just dump | | | | II), and other products visit: Check out the discussion |
| them entirely and move on as being too much | | | | group at: |
| maintenance - which they are. | | | | Copyright (c) 2007, Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Thus, it's imperative that you establish that | | | | All rights reserved. |