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| The New Year is upon us. It's time for a new | | | | date? |
| beginning, turning over a new leaf, and for renewing | | | | I recommend going to my website in the Resources |
| our hope of finding love this year. Now is the time to | | | | page to see what singles groups are in the major |
| think about how you want 2008 to be for you. You | | | | cities that you may want to check out. Also, you can |
| get to create what you feel is possible for you. | | | | Google "singles groups" in your particular local area. |
| Here are some relationship questions and suggestions | | | | Additional dating advice for women and men is for |
| from your relationship coach to get you thinking | | | | you to find something that you haven't tried before |
| about what you want to attract into your life this | | | | where you will feel comfortable. For instance, if you |
| year. | | | | are not athletic, then I don't recommend you going |
| * How would you envision your life to look in January | | | | to a sports-oriented groups. You may feel awkward |
| 2009, a year from now? What values and | | | | there. Also, see my article, "Where to Find You |
| characteristics do you want your romantic partner to | | | | Motivated to Marry™ Partner" in |
| have? | | | | my free page of my website to get more ideas on |
| Here, I am asking you to close your eyes and see | | | | where to meet people for dating. |
| your life a year from now. If you see it, then you | | | | * Who can you enlist to help you in your search for |
| can work toward your vision. Once you have | | | | a life partner? |
| visualized what you want, it's important to make it | | | | There is a whole list of people who can help you: |
| real by creating a picture of it or putting together a | | | | friends, family, co-workers, leaders at your |
| collage of what you want your life to look like and | | | | synagogue or church. Also, there are match-makers |
| what qualities you want your romantic partner to | | | | who help people find life partners for a fee. It's also a |
| embody. | | | | known fact that married women love to fix people |
| For instance, when I was single, I made a picture (a | | | | up. So who can you approach about setting you up |
| very primitive one!) of a male and female stick figure | | | | on a date? |
| dancing and skiing. This is my representation of what | | | | Bonus question: What will you commit to doing |
| my boyfriend (eventual husband) and I would be | | | | differently in 2008 that you haven't done this past |
| doing. It turns out even though my husband didn't | | | | year? Do you need to change your attitude about |
| really dance or ski, he was willing to learn! So my | | | | dating from an uptight perspective to a more relaxed |
| vision did turn into reality after all. | | | | one? Are you willing to be more open and positive |
| * What are your dating or relationship goals for | | | | about dating? |
| 2008? (3 months/ 6 months/ 1 year) | | | | All this will make you more attractive to the opposite |
| Goals need to be written down to make them | | | | sex. Perhaps you need to learn how to weed |
| attainable. I suggest you post your goals at a place | | | | through suitors better and more quickly. |
| you see at least once a day. I post my goals on the | | | | And, how is your rejection tolerance? Are you willing |
| bathroom mirror. | | | | to face your fears head on and be fearless about |
| For instance, an example of goals written down is "in | | | | meeting new people to date this year? |
| 3 months time I will be dating someone steadily, lose | | | | Last, give someone a second chance or a second |
| 10 pounds, and work as a volunteer once a month". | | | | date. You may be pleasantly surprised what's really |
| As a relationship coach, some of my clients have told | | | | there. |
| me they put their goals on their computer- or in their | | | | My hope is that these relationship questions and |
| Blackberry. | | | | dating advice for women and men have pushed you |
| * What would support you in achieving your dating | | | | to think outside your box about dating, causing you |
| and relationship goals for 2008? | | | | to consider trying out a new approach or new ways |
| For instance, would losing weight or having a | | | | to meet people. When you take yourself outside |
| makeover support you in feeling better about | | | | your comfort zone and stay true to yourself, you will |
| yourself so you would be more confident about | | | | attract the right person to you! |
| going out and dating? | | | | Have a happy and fulfilling New Year! |
| Perhaps better time management would give you | | | | Amy Schoen, certified professional relationship life |
| more time in your day to look for someone and for | | | | coach, helps singles to attract the right romantic |
| going out on dates. Taking up a new sport can put | | | | relationship into their lives, is the author of "Motivated |
| you in touch with new people to date. Last, by | | | | to MarryÂ(R)", "30 Reasons Not to Get |
| working with a relationship coach or a therapist, you | | | | Married Until You are 30" and "Get It Right This |
| can get the support and encouragement you may | | | | Time™- How to Find and Keep |
| need from an impartial person to take action. | | | | Your Ideal Romantic Relationship". |
| * What one or two things will you try that you | | | | |