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| The New Year is upon us. It's time for a new | | | | I recommend going to my website in the |
| beginning, turning over a new leaf, and for | | | | Resources page to see what singles groups are |
| renewing our hope of finding love this year. | | | | in the major cities that you may want to |
| Now is the time to think about how you want | | | | check out. Also, you can Google "singles |
| 2008 to be for you. You get to create what | | | | groups" in your particular local area. |
| you feel is possible for you. | | | | |
| | | | Additional dating advice for women and men is |
| Here are some relationship questions and | | | | for you to find something that you haven't |
| suggestions from your relationship coach to | | | | tried before where you will feel comfortable. |
| get you thinking about what you want to | | | | For instance, if you are not athletic, then I |
| attract into your life this year. | | | | don't recommend you going to a |
| | | | sports-oriented groups. You may feel awkward |
| * How would you envision your life to look | | | | there. Also, see my article, "Where to Find |
| in January 2009, a year from now? What values | | | | You Motivated to Marry™ Partner" |
| and characteristics do you want your romantic | | | | in my free page of my website to get more |
| partner to have? | | | | ideas on where to meet people for dating. |
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| Here, I am asking you to close your eyes and | | | | * Who can you enlist to help you in your |
| see your life a year from now. If you see it, | | | | search for a life partner? |
| then you can work toward your vision. Once | | | | |
| you have visualized what you want, it's | | | | There is a whole list of people who can help |
| important to make it real by creating a | | | | you: friends, family, co-workers, leaders at |
| picture of it or putting together a collage | | | | your synagogue or church. Also, there are |
| of what you want your life to look like and | | | | match-makers who help people find life |
| what qualities you want your romantic partner | | | | partners for a fee. It's also a known fact |
| to embody. | | | | that married women love to fix people up. So |
| | | | who can you approach about setting you up on |
| For instance, when I was single, I made a | | | | a date? |
| picture (a very primitive one!) of a male and | | | | |
| female stick figure dancing and skiing. This | | | | Bonus question: What will you commit to doing |
| is my representation of what my boyfriend | | | | differently in 2008 that you haven't done |
| (eventual husband) and I would be doing. It | | | | this past year? Do you need to change your |
| turns out even though my husband didn't | | | | attitude about dating from an uptight |
| really dance or ski, he was willing to learn! | | | | perspective to a more relaxed one? Are you |
| So my vision did turn into reality after all. | | | | willing to be more open and positive about |
| | | | dating? |
| * What are your dating or relationship goals | | | | |
| for 2008? (3 months/ 6 months/ 1 year) | | | | All this will make you more attractive to the |
| | | | opposite sex. Perhaps you need to learn how |
| Goals need to be written down to make them | | | | to weed through suitors better and more |
| attainable. I suggest you post your goals at | | | | quickly. |
| a place you see at least once a day. I post | | | | |
| my goals on the bathroom mirror. | | | | And, how is your rejection tolerance? Are you |
| | | | willing to face your fears head on and be |
| For instance, an example of goals written | | | | fearless about meeting new people to date |
| down is "in 3 months time I will be dating | | | | this year? |
| someone steadily, lose 10 pounds, and work as | | | | |
| a volunteer once a month". As a relationship | | | | Last, give someone a second chance or a |
| coach, some of my clients have told me they | | | | second date. You may be pleasantly surprised |
| put their goals on their computer- or in | | | | what's really there. |
| their Blackberry. | | | | |
| | | | My hope is that these relationship questions |
| * What would support you in achieving your | | | | and dating advice for women and men have |
| dating and relationship goals for 2008? | | | | pushed you to think outside your box about |
| | | | dating, causing you to consider trying out a |
| For instance, would losing weight or having a | | | | new approach or new ways to meet people. When |
| makeover support you in feeling better about | | | | you take yourself outside your comfort zone |
| yourself so you would be more confident about | | | | and stay true to yourself, you will attract |
| going out and dating? | | | | the right person to you! |
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| Perhaps better time management would give you | | | | Have a happy and fulfilling New Year! |
| more time in your day to look for someone and | | | | |
| for going out on dates. Taking up a new sport | | | | Amy Schoen, certified professional |
| can put you in touch with new people to date. | | | | relationship life coach, helps singles to |
| Last, by working with a relationship coach or | | | | attract the right romantic relationship into |
| a therapist, you can get the support and | | | | their lives, is the author of "Motivated to |
| encouragement you may need from an impartial | | | | MarryÂ(R)", "30 Reasons Not to Get |
| person to take action. | | | | Married Until You are 30" and "Get It Right |
| | | | This Time™- How to Find and Keep |
| * What one or two things will you try that | | | | Your Ideal Romantic Relationship". |
| you haven't yet tried in order to meet new | | | | |