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When Parents Get Divorced

Learn  how  to  talkyou go at separate times). These classes,
which many state court systems now mandate
Open communication is essential. You and thefor all divorcing couples, can be very
other parent need to be able to talk abouthelpful. If a class is not required in your
your child and make cooperative decisions. Ifarea, check with your attorney, the court
you're able to talk naturally in a pleasantclerk or the state department of mental
and reasonable way, you're on the right path.health  services  to  find  a class near you.
But if you find yourself gritting your teeth,
shouting or getting upset, try to treat yourConsider seeing a therapist. A couples
conversations with the other parent in a moretherapist can help you improve your
detached,  business-like  way.co-parenting skills. Your child can also
benefit from having a therapist to talk with,
You have to conduct the business of parentingand that therapist may, ultimately, be able
together, so treat it like a businessto help you and your ex work together to help
transaction. You wouldn't let your temper getyour  child.
the better of you in most business
situations, so try to be polite to your ex inIf, however, you have serious, lingering
the same way you would to a stranger you aredisagreements about the co-parenting plan
working  with.itself, a mediator can help you work through
them and come to an agreement that will work
I worked with one family that kept ending upfor  everyone.  Forgive  Yourself
back in court. The bottom line was that they
could not communicate in any reasonable way.While it may seem as though co-parenting is
Every time they exchanged children, they hadsolely about your interaction with the other
a blowup. They finally went to a therapistparent, a big part is your own internal
who had them practice discussing only thethought process. Although you have to learn
situation at hand, and putting their emotionsto forgive or at least let go of things the
and problems with each other on the backother parent has done, you must also forgive
burner to be dealt with at another time. Thisyourself for anything you secretly believe
worked, and when they had to do the businessyou've done - whether to the other parent or
of parenting, they were able to focus only onto your child. Everyone who goes through the
that task and keep the rest of their problemsemotional turmoil of a divorce makes mistakes
separate.and  you  need  to  tell  yourself  it is OK.
Get  helpYou also need to learn to forgive yourself
for the slip-ups you will make as you
Co-parenting may not come naturally to you,co-parent. No one can keep up a perfect
particularly if you're a high-conflictfaçade at all times. You're going to lose
couple, or you're still recovering from theyour temper, be inflexible or let your hurt
nastiness of a divorce. But there are plentyget the best of you sometimes in dealing with
of ways to get help with your parentingthe other parent. Tell yourself it's OK and
relationship.that you will simply try harder the next
time.
Take a co-parenting class together (even if



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